In the last couple weeks, I’ve suddenly been getting emails with multiple requests for dream interpretation on the topic of marriage and relationships. This is something I have not dealt with in several years, mostly because, until over a year ago, I was not married! But, now that I am, and having dealt with many dreams of marriage and relationships, I believe I can pass on some useful experience and observations to those who are not yet married and hope to be. Even if you are already married, or this subject does not otherwise fit you at this time, keep reading because there are some general principles here that you might benefit from.

Your Marriage Decision Is Extremely Important

Long before I ever had the sense to ask God why He put me here, I knew that my choice of a wife was extremely critical. I did have a thought in the back of my mind that I didn’t really know what God’s plan was for me and because of that, I had no idea what kind of woman would fit into my future. It may help some of you to know that this period of uncertainty lasted into my mid-40’s (way too long if you ask me).

Fortunately, as God began revealing His plan for my life, the understanding of what kind of wife I needed slowly became more obvious. Having said that, let me emphasize the word “slowly”. If I fast forward several years, I can say that God’s idea of the right wife differed in some ways from what I thought to be logical. To explain that would require another entire blog but for now, suffice it to say that the woman I married was somewhat different from what you might expect at least according to a “life experience resume” (for lack of a better description).

Throughout my entire dating process (which was long distance communication for 4 years), God kept giving me dreams (at random times) showing me that I was still on the right track, despite my wondering how the differences (age, culture, education, life experience, family type) would work out. I can say that He didn’t necessarily come out and say in straightforward language what I should do but, it was more like a process of comparing my dreams with what I felt in my heart.

Part Of Our Development Process

I say all this because God does not necessarily speak to each of us in the same way. That is partly because we are all different and we don’t all need to have Him do exactly as He did with Joseph and Mary. I believe many of us are required to think through our choices and consider our dreams in order to work through the process of reaching full maturity in God’s life plan for us. If God just came out and always told us what to do in simple teams for all our decisions, we would remain spiritual babies for our entire life.

When God sent the angel to Joseph with a message about Mary, it was because he was already in a thinking process and something came up which greatly confused him. I do not read this verse as a “command” for Joseph to take Mary but instead, a validation of her character in light of her becoming pregnant by the Holy Spirit rather than another man. If you have a question about someone you are dating / considering for marriage, and you are uncertain about something, you can expect God to show you whether or not you are going in the right direction. This has happened to me as well!

But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost. 

Matthew 1:20 (KJV)

Speaking of reaching full maturity in God’s training process… the Bible says about women, that you are to be a wife before you are married. That means you have to be ready for that stage before you get married. This is a very long explanation and mostly not taught correctly in churches but, towards the bottom of this blog, I will include a link to a new product where all this is explained very, very thoroughly (at the mystery level, not merely revelation). Just one tiny part of that new book is the explanation of the verse below which does not say that a man finds a “woman” but instead, he finds a “wife” (who is already prepared, just like Esther, to be a wife before she is married!)

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

Proverbs 18:22 (KJV)

Validation! Matching Dreams To Reality

Something I’ve been learning more and more in the last few years is that, in every area of our life, we need to maintain a proper balance. What I mean is, among other things, we must remember that too much of any one thing (including the supernatural) is not good. Translating that to our topic today, since dreams are partial and can be misinterpreted, we sometimes cannot rely solely on what we get in that realm. I’m not overturning everything I’ve written in almost 9 years of blogging but, just to say that we must be careful not to run off at full speed based on only an incomplete revelation from a dream.

A false balance is abomination to the LORD: but a just weight is his delight.

Proverbs 11:1 (KJV)

Here’s an example of why this is important as it relates to choosing who you will marry… From experience, it is possible to have both positive and negative dreams about a person you are dating. Just having positive dreams about a person does not mean you should get married to them. Contrarily, having negative dreams does not mean you should throw that person out. What’s the middle ground here? Well, consider that God is showing you various aspects of a person, plus what is about to happen with them in their life. When you get married, it really helps to know what that person is going to be like when good or bad things happen. It really helps to know what their strengths and weaknesses are and what you might consider in light of that.

On the positive side, just because God shows you a certain person is “the right one” does not mean you will not have problems after you get married. God’s idea of “right” does not only include things that make you happy. God has a much higher plan for each of us and part of that includes His process of using negative circumstances to correct what is wrong with us. When God has a specific person in mind for us, He factors in what our calling and purpose is along with what is still wrong with us. That means, there might be a significant difference between your idea of what “Mr / Ms Perfect” is and God’s idea.

What I’m saying here is… 1) don’t think you are going to have only positive dreams about the person you will marry, and 2) don’t think that a negative dream means you should not get married to a certain person. Remember that God is quite often equal in the kind of dreams He gives people. If someone is going to mistreat you, God may show you that in a dream. Likewise, because of His impartiality, expect God to show someone else a dream about your own behavior or attitude as well (yes, He absolutely does that)!!

Then Peter opened his mouth, and said, Of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons:

Acts 10:34 (KJV)

What God is trying to get you to do is, consider the entire context of the dream, the potentially negative behavior in light of the overall person and… to consider yourself in the process. We are each screwed up beyond belief. We have many character flaws, generational curses and things that must be corrected. To take one negative dream about a person and forget how much we have to correct ourselves is to do what the Pharisees did when they wanted to kill a woman who committed a certain sin. Yes, there are times to run away from a person when God continually shows evil things about them!! What I’m saying is, just keep all this in mind and consider the good with the bad.

More importantly here is the process and the heart of the person. Does the person have a character flaw? Ok, and do they have a heart of repentance such that you know they don’t want to be like that? Do they have generational curses that they have not yet processed out of yet? When you see a problem with a person, you also need to see whether or not they are deliberately trying to get freed from what was passed down to them by their ancestors.

In my case, none of my ancestors did much of anything to go through God’s process of cleaning out the garbage in their lineage!! As a result, I have had a ton of work to do in fixing serious flaws and errors and I can say from experience that some of these take a very long time. When deciding who to marry, you must consider this factor about them as well.

If then I do that which I would not, I consent unto the law that it is good. Now then it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me. For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not. For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do. Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me.

Romans 7:16-20 (KJV)

An Anonymous Email Reply

Remember how I said at the top here that I’ve received several emails from readers asking me to interpret their dreams about a potential marriage relationship? Well, one email I received was from a woman who had dreams about a man she had no significant interactions with (so far). Her dreams showed she needed to consider a certain man but, the problem was, she perceived the situation with the man to be the opposite of what it really was. What I mean is, she didn’t think the man had any interest in her but, the dream showed that was not true!

I found this situation very interesting because one of the earliest dreams I had about my (now) wife was very similar with the exception that I needed God to show me I was passing someone by and I needed to go back and take another look. About me… I tend to be very business minded in some ways and I tend to make certain decisions a little bit quickly. In the case of my dream, God showed I was dismissing someone too quickly and as a result, I was missing something.

Considering that now in the context of the above mentioned woman and her dreams. For the sake of efficiency, let me paste the slightly edited reply I sent to her about the man she didn’t think was interested in her. I won’t include the text of her dream for privacy reasons but my short description of her dreams above is sufficient. Here’s the edited version of what I wrote…

… I think the dream shows there is something there which you would otherwise not be aware of. This is not so much a prophetic dream as it is more about insight. What I mean is that, it does not necessarily show an event coming up (altho it could) where you would be doing exactly as you saw but rather that things are not as you believe regarding the thoughts of the man. Yes, you should interpret this to mean that he has an interest in you even if it is not obvious.

Personal comment… I was very shy when I was younger and never approached certain women unless there was something obvious that made it easier to do. Ok, so my saying “never” is an exaggeration but it was often very hard for me to do that at first. So, a man may not show anything regarding an interest in you but that does not mean there isn’t anything going on. We all have our “issues” so don’t make a judgment about him just because he does not approach you. You have no idea how many women I was curious about but, because of how I was raised (with extreme insecurity and many other problems), to approach certain women was very hard for me to do at times (thankfully I processed out of that many years ago).

Now for the next dream… dreams are partial and God only shows a piece of a situation, which can be a bit frustrating at times depending on what it’s about. So the dream is showing you one piece of your future wedding. God is not showing you the man and then there’s something about not being dressed for it. It can mean that you are not thinking seriously that your wedding is coming up.

What I mean is… it may be sooner than you think (why you were not dressed, or prepared, for it). I’m not trying to say anything about the timeline because those can also be rather frustrating to match reality with dreams. Look at it another way… consider the man above and the fact this dream shows a wedding… Meeting the right man which will lead to being married can be equated with seeing yourself not ready mentally to be married.

For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. 

1 Corinthians 13:9 (KJV)

When God Requires You To Break Rank With Your Culture

After this I beheld, and, lo, a great multitude, which no man could number, of all nations, and kindreds, and people, and tongues, stood before the throne, and before the Lamb, clothed with white robes, and palms in their hands;

Revelation 7:9 (KJV)

While replying to a woman about marriage dreams, I also commented (especially from my own experience) that God will sometimes require you to break rank with your cultural or family tradition norms. What I mean is, God has a kingdom made up of all nations, and His plan and purpose for your life is very different than everyone else’s around you. As such, He may require you to get married to a person who is not of your ethnicity or culture, and in a way that does not fit into your cultural traditional wedding ceremonies. This was God’s plan for me and so I can speak from direct experience in this matter!

We need to watch that we do not impose our culture on God’s way of doing things. I’ve had to “put my culture and my family to death” (in my mind) because, some of those traditions and ways of doing things are not consistent with God’s way or His calling for me. If we cannot obey God when He tells us to break rank with our family or cultural ways, then we are cutting off His plan for our life. We must be ready and willing to go against traditions and all that if we really want to do all that God put us here for (much bigger topic than just marriage – I could talk for hours on that).

When Moses married a woman from Africa, some people began to speak against him and immediately God became very angry, to the point of deciding to kill two prophets that were closely associated with him. I’m including this just to emphasize again that God has a kingdom (really, an empire) that is made up of all ethnicities, each of which do things differently than your own. We must learn the strengths and weaknesses of our own culture and what He put into each of them so that we can work together and gain the pieces we are lacking ourselves.

And Miriam and Aaron spake against Moses because of the Ethiopian woman whom he had married: for he had married an Ethiopian woman.

Numbers 12:1 (KJV)

NOTE: Just to make one thing very clear – under NO circumstances are you to take what I just said and twist it into thinking God will allow you to commit abominations and marry the same sex. That is demonic, out of order and an act of rebellion against God to do such a thing. If you have agreed with that lifestyle, you must be delivered from this lie from satan.

Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.
For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.

Romans 1:24-27 (KJV)

Clues About Your Future Spouse In Advance?

At the risk of making this the longest blog I have ever written, let me briefly include something I had forgotten until very recently. Years ago, God gave me a dream that I believed to be a very big clue about my future wife which I included mention of in my first blog on this topic: Future Outcomes: Coded Clues About Business, Romance and Friendships. In my dream, God showed me two dolphins playing with a beachball in an indoor pool. The dolphins bounced the ball back and forth between each other and then one of them hit it into something like a soccer goal at the end of the pool.

I understood this dream to mean that I and my future wife would work as a team in spiritual things and that we would be effective. When I looked up the characteristics of dolphins, I saw that they were very intelligent and communicated very well. I had a clear sense that this dream was showing me future characteristics of my marriage. Oddly enough, it was only after a year of being married that I remembered this dream (and that I included it in that past blog)! What surprised me upon remembering it was that my wife has a very strong connection with dolphins and many times God has shown her various things about them. Going way beyond that, one of my wife’s marvelic abilities deals with dominion and power over water (the Moses lineage).

NOTE: If you are new to my blog and are unfamiliar with marvelic supernatural abilities, this is a huge subject that I deal with extensively here – find out more at this page: Marvels & Glory Powers.

NEW Recommended Product For Both Men & Women

Since this blog is extremely long and this is a very important topic, let me stop here by giving you a product reference that I read a few months ago. Of all the books I have ever read on marriage, this one below is by far the absolute best. As I referred to above in this blog, this book below is written at the mystery level and contains things no other book on earth will explain regarding women, marriage and what both men and women need to know!

Some parts of this book are not intended for readers below the age of 18 (or so) and I can more or less guarantee you will never hear in a modern day church. Check the product link and read more about this. Here is the book link (Amazon preview image not yet available): 

• The Wife, The Warrior, and the Wedding (Book), by David E. Taylor.

Along with the above book is a link to a new video series where women on the global ministry staff (which I am part of) are reading the book. Watch this introductory episode and follow along with the new series…

That’s all for now – follow my blog and watch for me to post blog updates or podcasts as follow ups on this topic at some point in the future. Thank you again for reading and supporting my work!

To be continued…

Resources

• Article: Future Outcomes: Coded Clues About Business, Romance and Friendships
• Article: Kingdom of God vs Church: Purpose, Order, Organizational Snapshot & Cultural Characteristics
• Online symbols reference: Joshua Media Ministries International online dream symbols

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